PATIENCE REALLY IS A VIRTUE.

It’s a human obsession to want everything immediately, we are racing against time, but time is only an illusion created by man.  Rushing things in life will only bring disappointment or where it produces results, just a shadow of what is possible.   "Time is an illusion". – ALBERT EINSTEIN -

Think about when you boil the kettle to make tea.  If you don't wait for the water to finish boiling - it won't be warm and you won’t enjoy a flavourful cup of tea.  Each goal will take place in its own time.  Some may become reality faster than others; it just depends on how much needs to be done to make it happen.  Many goals require a complete change of lifestyle and others, years of training, or relocation, however it’s not only a question of waiting but also maintaining a good attitude.  Becoming successful is a privilege and must be earned.  It’s not something that we deserve because we had a hard life or because we were born with less than others.

“The timeless in you is aware of life’s timelessness. And knows that yesterday is but today’s memory and tomorrow is today’s dream.” - KHALIL GIBRAN -

Having dreams is important, planning and putting things into action is part of the process, but stepping back once in a while will enable you to jump further.  Starting a business or a new career will take time to yield the success you crave.  Becoming successful in just a few months is unrealistic as it takes time to build, like a wall, one brick at the time.  It’s why so many people give up before seeing results and swiftly return to their comfort zone.  If you don't give time to time, you'll only receive a little.  Be patient with a positive attitude and believe that all your hard work and sacrifice will be rewarded one day and it will materialise before your eyes; probably when you expect it the least; your harvest time will come.

“You can have it all. Just not all at once.” – OPRAH WINFREY – 

Patience is virtuous in other ways too.  It has the power to heal.  

People argue all the time and whatever their relationship to each other, misunderstandings can be damaging.  Time will heal the broken pieces, and sometimes it’s the only remedy.  

Time really can mend your heart and bring you peace of mind.  It’s pointless to bear a grudge, the negative emotion is with you, not the subject of your emotion so in the end you’ll only end up hurting yourself. 

Your love for your dreams, and the discipline you’ll develop to achieve them will attract the right people and situations to you.  Walking the path towards your goal requires patience, devotion and love, and for these reasons only some become successful.

Simply ask yourself these questions: how much do I want it?  Am I willing to sacrifice my time?  Put my social life on hold?  Endure backwards steps in order to move forward?  Or, to struggle financially?  If you can answer yes to all of these questions then you’re ready to start your journey.  But remember, success will take its sweet time so always be mindful of that.

HAVE PATIENCE WITH ALL THINGS BUT MOSTLY WITH YOURSELF.

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PARENT'S BLESSING: Why seek approval?

We only end up hurting if we don't get it as we know we have failed to meet their expectations.Do we need to please our parents and follow their ways? I don’t believe so. We are individuals not clones with our own aspirations. Some parents heavily influence their children to follow their path; in an odd way they push them toward their unachieved dreams, their religious beliefs, and their way of life.

Of course, parents will have a certain way of living which their children will have to accept. They'll have do as they're told, but only until they're old enough to make their own choices and chase their own dreams.

I believe that parents should raise their kids with unconditional love and with discipline, but also encourage their independence and freewill to become whomever they want to be.

I once met an intelligent and beautiful girl at a model agency.

I asked her: “Where are you from? She said: “From Puerto Rico”. I was amazed that she came from somewhere so far away. I asked her if she was a model back home. She answered: ”No, I was a pilot”. I was gob smacked! I asked: "What are you doing here in London?" She replied: “I’m here on a student visa to get away from my dad and make my dream come true. I never wanted to become a pilot, that was my dad’s dream. I want to be a model, I'm passionate about fashion.”

We all know people who are living their lives in a certain way to keep their parents or others happy. They feel like it's their duty, an obligation towards them and they're willing to sacrifice some of their own freedom to please them. That’s a personal choice and no one should be judged for it. However, many suffer the consequences. Their heart divorces their mind and they become unhappy as they aren't living the life they desire.

"All parents damage their children. It cannot be helped. Youth, like pristine glass, absorbs the prints of its handlers. Some parents smudge, others crack, a few shatter childhoods completely into jagged little pieces, beyond repair." - Mitch Albom -

The lack of support or love from your parents will hurt but that’s only a problem if you choose to let the pain take over. Time will heal your wounds. Do you really need their blessing to breathe air? Do you need their approval to choose who you love? Do you need them to hold your hand for your first day at work? No! So why is it any different to choose the life you want?

It is heart breaking when a parent disapproves of your choices, rejecting the life you have chosen or sometimes showing disapproval through disinterest. I kind of understand their perspective though. They think they know what is best for you and want to protect you from the bad choices they made. They forget that we all have different values and different ambitions, so we all need to follow our own path. I don’t think this makes them bad parents, just afraid of the unknown with little faith in what is possible.

"Lucky parents who have fine children usually have lucky children who have fine parents." - James A. Brewer -

It isn’t our job to fulfil our parent’s unfinished dreams or live the life they have chosen for us, but we do have a duty towards ourselves to fulfil our own destiny. 

Some kids are happy to take over the family business or follow the same profession as their parents because it's a family tradition and other kids want something different. It's the same with spiritual, political and religious beliefs, some will keep them going and others will make their own choices.

If you are a parent, don't be disappointed if your son or daughter has chosen to live free and be their own person. Most kids are grateful to their parents for the clothes on their backs, the food on the table, and the roof over their head. Mostly they are grateful for the chance to live and this can only be repaid by love. Be proud of your kids and love them, accept their choices and passions, they want your love and acceptance more than anything, but they will find a way to live without it if this is not the case.

Parents have the gift to heal the world, by teaching unconditional love to the next generation SO OUR FUTURE CAN BE BRIGHTER.

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FACE YOUR FEARS

We, humans project our fears onto each other unconsciously, we forget that our destinies are different and we dismiss that our desires and dreams are poles apart. Yet we seek validation for our everyday choices and we need to feel like we belong. Some of us are ready to give up what truly makes us happy so we can be like everyone else.

"Always do what you are afraid to do." - Ralph Waldo Emerson -

Why do we project fear onto each other? I think it is mainly because we are scared of the unknown; we worry about being judged as we might stand out from the crowd. But, the future cannot be predicted, we make our paths as we walk. Not everything is pre-written as we design our future in our present. We have the power as long as we choose what we want.

We will always be judged for something, no matter who we are. We single out people for being different, and that difference could be anything – it’s a human failing. If someone has more than another person it’s almost certainly because they worked harder, believed and never gave up, whereas the other person thought it was impossible.

They are two types of people in the world; the ones who think for themselves and make decisions in order to lead their life in happiness, and the ones who are on the boat of life, not really knowing where they are heading and happy to just go along with whatever comes next. It's a personal choice.

It is important to take a leap of faith and push for change; we often don’t understand why someone would make a decision that seems so crazy, knowing that we would never take that risk. 

Like a sudden change of direction, which often means starting from scratch, fighting old habits and the financial struggle for a few years. 

We shouldn't project our own fears onto people who are trying to realise their dreams, especially if they know the risks and are willing to take a chance.

"My 'fear' is my substance, and probably the best part of me." - Franz Kaftka - 

It’s alright to be your own person and make choices that suit you; it’s your right to choose a life that confirms your aspirations and dreams. You don’t have to be like everyone else, we are all different. 

Think of it this way: all the wires in your brain are made of different colors; your colors might be blue and green, so you will need to make different choices in order to find happiness.

It is most likely that your friends and family have different colors in mind, so your choices and aspirations will be different. However it doesn't mean you can’t enjoy each other’s company, you will simply make dissimilar choices.

When you are telling someone about your plans to do something completely out of the ordinary, don’t absorb their discouragement, this is only what they would feel if they were in your shoes, but they are not wired like you. 

Understand that some people are not courageous enough to take a leap of faith into the unknown as it is frightening. 

"Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold." - Helen Keller -

Some people think they aren't worthy or might fail, but they could succeed if they believed. This doesn't make them any better or worse than you, they just choose to stay within their comfort zone which is safe and easy, perfectly understandable. However, some of us want more out of life so we walk through doors not certain where they will lead and we are willing to believe in the impossible. It isn't always easy given the lack of support in some cases but never give up, keep walking, alone if must be.

Life created diversity, so let’s recognise it! Let’s set each other free to be whom we want to be. Society doesn’t dictate who we are, we don’t have to fit any mould but our own, and as life goes on, every day is a new chance to be happy. So find your colors and don’t fear to be you.

Fear is the only barrier to success and happiness; you must be willing to face it in order to find what you seek.

LOVE WHO YOU ARE AND BELIEVE YOU CAN.

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