We, humans project our fears onto each other unconsciously, we forget that our destinies are different and we dismiss that our desires and dreams are poles apart. Yet we seek validation for our everyday choices and we need to feel like we belong. Some of us are ready to give up what truly makes us happy so we can be like everyone else.
"Always do what you are afraid to do." - Ralph Waldo Emerson -
Why do we project fear onto each other? I think it is mainly because we are scared of the unknown; we worry about being judged as we might stand out from the crowd. But, the future cannot be predicted, we make our paths as we walk. Not everything is pre-written as we design our future in our present. We have the power as long as we choose what we want.
We will always be judged for something, no matter who we are. We single out people for being different, and that difference could be anything – it’s a human failing. If someone has more than another person it’s almost certainly because they worked harder, believed and never gave up, whereas the other person thought it was impossible.
They are two types of people in the world; the ones who think for themselves and make decisions in order to lead their life in happiness, and the ones who are on the boat of life, not really knowing where they are heading and happy to just go along with whatever comes next. It's a personal choice.
It is important to take a leap of faith and push for change; we often don’t understand why someone would make a decision that seems so crazy, knowing that we would never take that risk.
Like a sudden change of direction, which often means starting from scratch, fighting old habits and the financial struggle for a few years.
We shouldn't project our own fears onto people who are trying to realise their dreams, especially if they know the risks and are willing to take a chance.
"My 'fear' is my substance, and probably the best part of me." - Franz Kaftka -
It’s alright to be your own person and make choices that suit you; it’s your right to choose a life that confirms your aspirations and dreams. You don’t have to be like everyone else, we are all different.
Think of it this way: all the wires in your brain are made of different colors; your colors might be blue and green, so you will need to make different choices in order to find happiness.
It is most likely that your friends and family have different colors in mind, so your choices and aspirations will be different. However it doesn't mean you can’t enjoy each other’s company, you will simply make dissimilar choices.
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When you are telling someone about your plans to do something completely out of the ordinary, don’t absorb their discouragement, this is only what they would feel if they were in your shoes, but they are not wired like you.
Understand that some people are not courageous enough to take a leap of faith into the unknown as it is frightening.
"Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold." - Helen Keller -
Some people think they aren't worthy or might fail, but they could succeed if they believed. This doesn't make them any better or worse than you, they just choose to stay within their comfort zone which is safe and easy, perfectly understandable. However, some of us want more out of life so we walk through doors not certain where they will lead and we are willing to believe in the impossible. It isn't always easy given the lack of support in some cases but never give up, keep walking, alone if must be.
Life created diversity, so let’s recognise it! Let’s set each other free to be whom we want to be. Society doesn’t dictate who we are, we don’t have to fit any mould but our own, and as life goes on, every day is a new chance to be happy. So find your colors and don’t fear to be you.
Fear is the only barrier to success and happiness; you must be willing to face it in order to find what you seek.
