HAVE COURAGE & BE KIND

We were born onto this earth, most of us to families; some loving and kind, others broken and unhappy.  We were sent to school to learn to read and count but really they were exam factories, leaving us unprepared for the real difficulties that life has in store for us.  We were taught that we need to work hard for our money and that without it we are nothing, so our existence depends on a man-made tool with immense power to control us. We were given a name, a religion and a nationality that are supposed to define us - an identity that divides us with borders and limitations, we must follow these rules or face the consequences, accept without question the knowledge and wisdom of the past generations.  

But in all this, no one tells us how to heal our internal wounds, or how to face our fears. They don’t tell us how to stay strong when hard times come, how to accept the cards life dealt us at birth, how to fight negativity and turn our mind into our best ally. Material things can’t heal you, money doesn’t love, and work isn’t family. We are all human and our true identity is LOVE.

To those of you fighting a personal battle of any kind, keep strong and be brave:

To the unwell; your body and mind want to give up, and you are no longer able to take the stress and the torment. You are wrapped in your worst nightmare, but you’re not ready to let go of this precious gift called life. You must fight, you should know that you have what it takes to heal and keep going because your mind is incredibly powerful. Be the hero of your story, mark history with your strength and courage. 

“Natural forces within us are the true healers of disease.” 

- Hippocrates -

To the brave fighting depression; know that your mind is telling you lies about your situation. It tells you that you’re not worthy, that you don’t have what it takes, or that it’s too hard, so what’s the point in keeping going? Your passion and your will to live are fading quickly and you want to run away as far as possible hoping it will go away, but deep down you know that isn’t the answer. You’re not sure how long this will last but you’ll find the strength to survive, nothing is forever not even depression. Have faith in yourself, keep your light shining, your life is so worth living, no matter who you are - day by day, step by step, you will get through this.

“Depression is the inability to construct a future.”  - Rollo May -

To all the wonderful women; being a mother, a wife, a friend, a business woman, a sex goddess, a smart cookie and so much more. Trying to keep yourself sane, crying in secret to unload the burden weighing on your heart, doing your best to wear all of your hats at once. Try not to forget yourself, summon your internal warrior goddess, be strong, kind, loving and shine with confidence. Your happiness is important despite the priorities of people depending on you. You can do it all, just one thing at a time. You are built with all the necessary light and love, go deep within and find it!

“A beautiful woman delights the eye; a wise woman, the understanding; a pure one, the soul.” - Minna Antrim -

To all the reborn - starting over; it could be a new career, a new country, a new beginning, or just getting out of your comfort zone. Chasing your dreams can be painful - it’s painful to look around and see the success of others, and it’s painful to keep faith when you don’t seem to be making any progress. You know better than anyone that nothing grows unless you’re uncomfortable, everything will stay the same, and the days will pass by. But, change is a constant, so make the change on your terms, and when life knocks you over - keep hope, keep fighting, for every fall always remember to stand back up.

“There is only one day left, always starting over: it is given to us at dawn and taken away from us at dusk.” - Jean-Paul Sartre - 

To the broken hearted; the ache, the hollowness and the realisation that it has actually happened. The pain comes and goes, pinching your heart, but you keep on going. You wake up every day and deal with the inner torment, slowly leaving bits of it behind as you move on. We‘re all responsible for our actions in life no matter if we meant it or not, we have a degree of responsibility, but we must have faith and let time work it’s magic, your heart will heal soon. As one door closes another one always opens.

“Yet it is only love which sets us free.” - Maya Angelou -

To the eccentric or the odd one; you may be different from others, from ‘regular people’ and they may make you feel awkward. You want to be like everyone but your uniqueness is stronger, people you know and even those that you don’t can see you are true to yourself but you still feel like an alien. Extravert or introvert, love yourself, you are born an original why die a copy? It is your right to shine, you are made of stardust after all, and stars shine bright in the heavens for billions of years, so shine bright and teach people how to be true to themselves.

“I gave up my struggle with perfection a long time ago. That is a concept I don't find very interesting anymore. Everyone just wants to look good in the photographs. I think that is where some of the pressure comes from. Be happy. Be yourself, the day is about a lot more.” - Anne Hathaway -

To you super(men); our modern society is harsh and the demands on you are higher, earn money, be a protector, be successful, keep cool, be understanding, and be ready to save the day. The expectations are never ending. How can you be Prince Charming and Superman at the same time. So, take care of yourself, keep your mind sane and do the best you can, you are not perfect despite the weight of expectation from your surroundings. You also have dreams and being tough all the time will come at a price. You don’t have to be a superhero, just a good human being who will help lift our world, be there for yourself, your families but most importantly be a true gentlemen.

My theory is that men are no more liberated than women. 

- Indira Gandhi -

To all of us, the fighters, the strugglers, the champions, the eccentrics, the superheroes - keep on going! It is our purpose, pain is part of life and as much as we all wish we didn’t experience it, we wouldn’t be able to grow without it. I believe to reach enlightenment a great amount of pain and discomfort must be experienced, we must learn from life’s lessons and accept our difficult pasts - everyone has a unique story to tell. We need to master how to rise above negativity and not let pain make us bitter and unkind. It is our purpose to leave something behind worth passing onto the next generation. I don’t believe that pain will ever be easy to endure but we can change how we perceive it and learn how to help one another, we are not our feelings, we just experience them. Choose to rise above the pain and reach a higher frequency of love and happiness.

YOUR LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS, JUST KEEP ON LIVING IT!

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DEFICIENCY OF LOVE

OUR WORLD SUFFERS FROM A DEFICIENCY OF LOVE that causes so many people to feel misunderstood and disheartened. What is LOVE? It’s an intense feeling of affection that can heal your heart from pain and hate and fills it with joy and happiness. Our heart is the first organ to form during foetal development in the womb and I don’t think this is random but the creation of a person through love which is the essence of life.

Without love our hearts couldn’t function properly, it knows how to love but when broken the pain starts and hate can result. Our earth is in desperate need of compassion and equality; the reason why so many people feel lost and unhappy is partially because they feel misunderstood and unloved. Instead of loving some people prefer conflict and are quick to judge those that are different, sometimes it is easier to be unkind than give a little bit of our own heart. People have forgotten the simple kindness towards one another, the acceptance of our neighbours, and acceptance of people the way they are; instead we seek validation for our choices and criticise anyone who dares to be different.

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear. - Martin Luther King, Jr. -

We don’t show enough love, or say it enough either. The way we are brought up has a huge impact on who we become later in life. Growing up surrounded by unconditional love and a happy family helps create a balanced mind; but sadly, this isn't given to everyone.

Although, I do believe that anybody can turn their life around and become happy, even if their childhood was dysfunctional. It’s about forgiving the past and letting go of it. And, in some cases letting go of the people that bring drama into your life, no hate is required, silence will speak for itself. Keeping people in your life that make you depressed is like carrying a hedgehog in your pocket so every time you put your hand in, you get hurt.

Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. - Oscar Wilde -

I have read so much about people’s unhappiness: suffering in silence, heartache, depression, anxiety, panic attacks, negativity, misfits, but all of these feelings come to one thing, the lack of love for yourself and low self-esteem. If there is a lack of love for yourself, there will be pain and sadness. It’s not easy but once you enter the land of pain; make sure you have the intention to come out stronger and self-loving, otherwise a life of sadness will be your fate. Everyone in the world can be happy but it starts by loving who you are and what you are born with. Love all that you are including your gifts, your talents, your body and your mind. You are your own person; you don’t need to be like everyone else to be happy. You don’t need your friends, family or the neighbours to approve of your choices on how you live your life; you only need their love, if it’s unconditional.

By loving who you are and being confident in making choices that please you, you will attract happy people and your energy level will be on a higher frequency. Don’t let the gloominess of life steal your heart. We all have our battles. Don’t let go as the best is yet to come.

Do things you love, with people you love. Become passionate about something so the lack of love is filled. You must decide that happy is the only way to live. Love those who love you and ignore the haters. Your happiness can save the world and bring peace, it is the best thing you can influence someone with, compassion and love, so they in turn can influence someone else. If everyone took charge of their own happiness, and cared for one another, the world would be different. If we started to smile and be kind to each other as often as possible, the misinterpretation of kindness will disappear and become normal. Disregard the people, who won’t embrace it, they cannot love if they don’t feel it. Don’t tell the world; show it with your actions.

SPREAD LOVE AND KINDNESS SO ONE DAY THEY BECOME LIKE BREATHING AIR AND DRINKING WATER.

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PANIC ATTACKS/ ANXIETY

Your heart is racing, your throat is tight and there’s a ball of lead in your chest. It’s one of the most uncomfortable feelings to experience and can seriously get in the way of your everyday life, but I have no doubt that it can be tamed and eventually disappear.

I'm not a doctor or a psychologist, just a person that has recently developed this weird feeling of panic and discomfort when threatened or faced with an alien situation. It's just my defense system going on full power and triggering a red alert, when most of the time it’s not needed.

All my life I heard people say, “I get panic attacks” or “I suffer from anxiety”, but I could never really relate to these people as I had never experienced it. 

"Fear cannot be banished, but it can be calm and without panic; it can be mitigated by reason and evaluation." - Vannevar Bush -

I'm a fairly confident person and I wear my heart on my sleeve, but for the last couple of years I have been faced with a series of non-positive situations and met some seriously unkind people. I was on the wrong frequency of life and attracted very unlikable things. I truly believe that all these experiences which have happened one after another have lowered my confidence and as a result my mind created a mechanism to protect itself, preventing them from happening again.

It’s a little bit like an allergic reaction when you eat or touch something and your body reacts fairly quickly so you have to take anti-histamine. The remedy to anxiety or panic attacks is love, reassurance and self-confidence. Your friends and family may help here by reminding you that nothing bad is going to happen but the main part needs to come from within you.

Life will throw you in the strangest, most uncomfortable and very challenging situations, and the more you want out of life, the harder it will be, however the rewards are absolutely magical if you hang on and keep going. Amazing things do come to those who wait, as long as they have the right attitude. 

My panic attacks are getting better at a steady pace and I believe that I can overcome this strange reactions to evocative or odd situations, I'm not the type of person to settle for what I have, so being faced with unknown situations or people cannot get in my way and it shouldn't for you too. You must find the cause of your anxiety and what triggers the panic attacks, for me it’s usually people or situations that have hurt me in the past, or something that reminds me of them like places with bad memories.

"Anxiety is love's greatest killer. It makes others feel as you might when a drowning man holds on to you. You want to save him, but you know he will strangle you with his panic." - Anais Nin -

So when the feeling is coming I tune my mind to happy things and remind myself of the beautiful and loving people in my life. At first it's hard but the more you train yourself to feel love and happiness, the stronger you will get; and one day ultimately you will be amazed that you no longer let your insecurities rule your life.

LIVE IN LOVE AND LEAVE THE FEAR.

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