PATIENCE REALLY IS A VIRTUE.

It’s a human obsession to want everything immediately, we are racing against time, but time is only an illusion created by man.  Rushing things in life will only bring disappointment or where it produces results, just a shadow of what is possible.   "Time is an illusion". – ALBERT EINSTEIN -

Think about when you boil the kettle to make tea.  If you don't wait for the water to finish boiling - it won't be warm and you won’t enjoy a flavourful cup of tea.  Each goal will take place in its own time.  Some may become reality faster than others; it just depends on how much needs to be done to make it happen.  Many goals require a complete change of lifestyle and others, years of training, or relocation, however it’s not only a question of waiting but also maintaining a good attitude.  Becoming successful is a privilege and must be earned.  It’s not something that we deserve because we had a hard life or because we were born with less than others.

“The timeless in you is aware of life’s timelessness. And knows that yesterday is but today’s memory and tomorrow is today’s dream.” - KHALIL GIBRAN -

Having dreams is important, planning and putting things into action is part of the process, but stepping back once in a while will enable you to jump further.  Starting a business or a new career will take time to yield the success you crave.  Becoming successful in just a few months is unrealistic as it takes time to build, like a wall, one brick at the time.  It’s why so many people give up before seeing results and swiftly return to their comfort zone.  If you don't give time to time, you'll only receive a little.  Be patient with a positive attitude and believe that all your hard work and sacrifice will be rewarded one day and it will materialise before your eyes; probably when you expect it the least; your harvest time will come.

“You can have it all. Just not all at once.” – OPRAH WINFREY – 

Patience is virtuous in other ways too.  It has the power to heal.  

People argue all the time and whatever their relationship to each other, misunderstandings can be damaging.  Time will heal the broken pieces, and sometimes it’s the only remedy.  

Time really can mend your heart and bring you peace of mind.  It’s pointless to bear a grudge, the negative emotion is with you, not the subject of your emotion so in the end you’ll only end up hurting yourself. 

Your love for your dreams, and the discipline you’ll develop to achieve them will attract the right people and situations to you.  Walking the path towards your goal requires patience, devotion and love, and for these reasons only some become successful.

Simply ask yourself these questions: how much do I want it?  Am I willing to sacrifice my time?  Put my social life on hold?  Endure backwards steps in order to move forward?  Or, to struggle financially?  If you can answer yes to all of these questions then you’re ready to start your journey.  But remember, success will take its sweet time so always be mindful of that.

HAVE PATIENCE WITH ALL THINGS BUT MOSTLY WITH YOURSELF.

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WHY DO WE CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK?

We have all experienced this limiting fear, where we impose restrictions on ourselves because we give so much importance to what other people may think of us and the decisions we make. We hope that our choices will be validated by the world. I describe this as self-betrayal! I believe the reason why it’s such an engrained habit is because everyone judges each other, and this has been passed down to us since the beginning of civilisation. It goes for our physical appearance, our lifestyles, our beliefs and our social status. 

We must teach ourselves not to judge one another, or at least to reserve judgment, as we are all unique and we experience life differently. All we need to do is teach one generation to live and let live and then we will embrace this new way of life.

“I feel like when people judge me they're not judging me, because they don't know who I am.” - Gisele Bundchen - 

By seeking validation of our choices we give people power to influence us in line with their lives and their choices, so we end up validating them. Instead of shining through our true self, we chose to suppress our reality and become a copy of someone else, who in turn is probably a copy of someone else and so on. 

Why such a deep desire to be validated all the time, you may ask? Well, I believe it comes from trying too hard to conform to our rigid society and our childhood conditioning. If a child isn’t given enough freedom of choice and isn’t taught to be his own person, the dependence on being validated in his adult life will remain. Another factor is the fear of being alone. If we don’t conform to others and their decisions we fear their rejection and that we might end up lonely.

I believe we are getting confused between being inspired by someone and becoming that person. Surrounding ourselves with positive, intelligent, ambitious and open minded people is a must in order to learn and excel at life, but everyone is different so remember to get inspired but stay genuine.

-“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.-”- Nelson Mandela -

There is another essential quality to stand out from the crowd and never give too much importance to what others’ think - and that’s confidence. It plays a crucial role in mastering self-validation because if our minds are always doubtful and pessimistic, making choices that impact our lives will be difficult as our judgement will be clouded. Most of us are afraid to make mistakes, but how then do we learn? We have to make choices and learn from those experiences. 

We are the scientists of our own lives. 

We conduct experiments all the time without even knowing it, and we have our own theories and evidence on what works for us. Don’t be imprisoned by others’ thoughts, as what they think of you and your life experience is their problem. By being wholly you, you will naturally attract people who won’t judge you by simply love you for all that you are. These people are most likely to help you excel in life and support you to become the best you that you can be!

LIVE YOUR LIFE BY YOUR OWN STANDARDS AND NEVER BE AFRAID TO SHINE.

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